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The ruling on a woman marrying a man known for Hizbiyah – Shaikh Ubaid Al Jaabiry – Hafidhahullah

Bismillahi Wal Hamdullillah Was Salaatu Was salaamu ‘alaa rasoolillahi

Ammaa ba’d:

Question (From Palestine) : What is the ruling concerning a woman marrying a man who is hizbi and affiliates himself with one of the present day groups?

Answer:

I Say to you oh my Child from Palestine the one that you have described is an innovator and misguided, one who does not possess pleasing practice of the religion.

The Prophet – Sallallahu alaihi was Salam said “If there comes to you one whom you are pleased with his religion and his character then marry him, if you do not do so, there will be fitna in the earth and widespread corruption”

This hadeeth is graded no less than hasan with its gathered chains of narration and the intent is that it is sound to be used as evidence. Thus do not marry your daughters to these people of hizbiyah who are misguided and innovators for indeed they will be a trial and a test for them that will take them away from the sunnah.

As for if a woman was previously married to this man and didnt know or she was compelled by her family to marry him for some reason (perhaps) financial or personal, then let her be patient and seek her reward from Allah and let her concern herself with the affair of her children, and she should interact with him with hikma and refrain from that which he attempts to enforce upon her (ie related to his hizbiyah)..

(Taken from Question and answer session with the shaikh)

A Beautiful Hadeeth but…

Bismillahi Wal Hamdullillah Was Salaatu Was Salaamu ‘Alaa Rasoolillahi

Ammaa Ba’d:

I was recently asked about the following hadeeth and what the scholars of hadeeth say about it, a beautiful narration but sadly…

It is mentioned that Asma bint al Yazeed approached the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wassallam) and said:

I am a messenger for a group of females. All of them say a similar statement to mine, and they all are in agreement with my opinion. Indeed Allah has sent you to men and women, and we have believed in you and we follow you. We (females) are responsible for tending to the homes and we are the place where men fulfill their desires, in addition to carrying their children (during pregnancy). But the men are preferred over us due to the merits gained for attending the Friday congregational prayer, attending burial procedures and also fighting in the way of Allah. If they leave their homes, we protect their wealth and we also raise their children. (With this being the case) do we share in their great reward, oh Messenger of Allah (salallaahu ‘alaihi was sallam)?

Upon hearing this, the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi was sallam) turned toward his male companions and said:

Have you ever heard a female inquiring about the affair of her religion in a better manner than this female?

The companions replied: Indeed we did not perceive a woman would be guided to such an affair , Oh Messenger of Allah (salallaahu ‘alaihi was sallam)!

The Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi was sallam) then replied to her: Return oh Asma, and inform the group of females that being a good wife to your husband, exerting yourself to please him, and making him pleased with you is equivalent (in reward) to all of what you have mentioned concerning the men!

So she turned away saying: La illaha illallah, Allahu Akbar, due to the joy she felt (after hearing the Prophet’s reply)”.

(Collected by Ibn ‘Asaakir in ‘Taareekh Damishq (2/609)

Excerpts from the comments of Shaikh Naasir around the Hadeeth

Shaikh Al Albaani mentions: ‘Da’eef (weak)‘: In its isnaad is Abu Sa’eed As Saahili Jubaili and have not been able to find anyone who deems him trustworthy…thus he is majhool Al Haal (his condition is unknown)

I also believe that there is a break in the chain between Muslim ibn Ubaid and (the Narrator of the hadeeth) Asmaa bint Yazeed because i have not seen anyone establish that he narrated from her. He narrated from Anas ibn Maalik and Abi Usaib and a group of taabi’een. And Anas died late and i believe abu usiab did too. The Shaikh then mentions another chain of Narration from Abu Haatim in ‘Taareekh Waasit’ p75 and from ‘Shu’abul Imaan of Imaam Baihaqi (6/420-421) containing this saahili in it/ Then a different versions with a weak Narrator Rishdeen ibn Kuraib in it who is also da’eef (weak)…

The Shaikh concludes thus that the Hadeeth is a weak one and is not established upon the Messenger of Allah – Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Salam nor its narrator Asmaa bint Yazeed – Radhiyallahu Anhaa

Wallahu A’lam

Abu Hakeem

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Striving For Ones Family

Bismillahi Wal Hamdullillah Was Salaatu Was Salaamu ‘Alaa Rasoolillahi

Ammaa Ba’d:

We Mentioned in a previous post, that Allah has placed reward in certain action related to ones family, and likewise in the correct utilisation of ones wealth. The following hadeeth is is an example of that.

Upon the authority of Ka’b ibn ‘Ujrah – Radhiyallahu Anhu – Who said:

A man passed by the Prophet – Sallallahu alaihi Was Salam and the Companions of the Messenger of Allah – Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Salam saw his hardiness, striving and his briskness, so they said: Oh Messenger of Allah! If only this was ‘fee sabeelillah’ (In the way of Allah)! So the Messenger of Allah – Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Was Salam said: “If he has left out striving for his young son, then he is ‘fee sabeelillah’, and if he left out striving for his elderly parents, then he is fee sabeelillah, and if left out striving for the virtue and chastity of his own soul, then he is ‘fee sabeellillah’. But if he set out to be seen of the people, and to contend with others in mutual boasting then he is fee sabeelish Shaytaan! (In the path of Shaytaan!)

(Collected by Imaamut Tabaraani in ‘Mu’jam Al Kabeer (282) and declared ‘Saheeh’ by Shaikh Al Albaani in ‘Saheehul Jaami’ (1428))

This then indicates the virtue of striving for certain family members, but there is great virtue in striving for ones family generally, as made clear by the following hadeeth:

Upon the authority of Al Hasan – Radhiyallahu ‘Anhu who said that the Messenger of Allah – Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Was Salam Said:

The most beloved of the worshippers to Allah, is he who is most beneficial to his family

(Collected by Imaam Ahmad in ‘Az Zuhd’ and declared ‘Hasan’ by Shaikh Naasir in ‘Saheehul Jaami’ (172))

And indeed there are many ways one may benefit his or her family Wa Lillahil Hamd

Wallahu a’lam

Abu Hakeem

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Mankind and the dunya!

Bismillahi Wal Hamdullillah Was Salaatu Was Salaamu ‘Alaa Rasoolillahi

Ammaa Ba’d:

In the following hadeeth the Messenger informed us of the reality of Mankind and the dunya

Upon the authority of Abu Hurairah – Radhiyallahu ‘Anhu – that the Messenger – Sallallahu Alaihi Was Salam said:

The example of the Son of Aadam and his wealth, his family and his actions is like a man who has three brothers or three companions. One of them says to him: ‘I am with you throughout your life but when you die, then I am not of you and you are not of me’ The other says to him i will be with you until you reach that tree (i.e. for a particular duration) then I am not of you and you are not of me. Then the last one says to him: ‘I will be with you during your life and after death

(Collected by Bazaar as occurs in ‘Kashful Astaar’ (3228) and declared ‘Hasanun Saheeh’ By Shaikh Al Albaani in ‘At Targheeb and At Tarheeb (4889))

Upon the authority of Anas ibn Maalik

Ibn Aadam has three close companions. One companion says to him’ Whatever you spend is yours, and whatever you withold does not belong to you, this is his wealth. As for the (other) companion then he says ‘I am with you until you reach the king’s door, then i will leave you and return, that is his family and servants, as far as the (last) companion then he says: ‘I am with you wherever you enter or exit (i.e. wherever you go) those are his actions: So he (the son of aadam) responds: “And you were the most trivial of the three to me”

(Collected by Ibn Hibbaan (3098) and declared ‘Hasan Saheeh’ By Shaikh Al Albaani)

In one version of the hadeeth it mentions at the end: “..these is his actions, whether good or bad’ (collected by Imaamut Tabaraani in his ‘Mu’jamul Kabeer and declared ‘Hasan Saheeh’ by Shaikh Naasir in Saheeh At Targheeb (3231))

The intent behind the statement: “.. Whatever you spend is yours, and whatever you withold does not belong to you, this is his wealth” is made clearer in the following Hadeeth of Abdullah ibn Shakheer:

Upon the following Abdullah Ibn Shikheer who said: “When Allah revealed the verse:

The Mutual rivalry for piling up of the worldly things diverts you
(Suratut Takaathur:1)

The Messenger of Allah – Sallallahu ‘alaihi was Salam said: “Ibn Aadam says: “My wealth! My wealth! but do you possess from your wealth except that which you have eaten, and now it has been consumed, or what you have worn, now it is worn out or what you have given in charity and thus preserved it (i.e. for the hereafter).”

(Collected by Imaam Muslim in his ‘Saheeh’ (2958) (Fu’aad Abdul Baaqi print))

Since ones worldly possessions are with mankind for a time, ones true possessions are his possessions in the hereafter.Similarly we see in it the reality of most of mankind as it relates to his actions, this occurs in the statement of the son of Aadam at the end of the first Hadeeth, ‘..and you were the most trivial of the three to me’. That is most people’s main concern is with their family and their wealth alone,  often times to the detriment of the thing that will benefit them the most in the hereafter, their actions. Though from the mercy of Allah, is that he has placed many a good deed in our families and our wealth, for those who wish to capitalise.

Wallahu Waliyut Tawfeeq

Abu Hakeem

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Be mindful of your duty to your Mother!

Upon the authority of Ataa Ibn Yasaar who narrates from Ibn Abaas – Radhiyallahu ‘anhumaa – that a man approached him and said: “Indeed I proposed to a woman but she refused to marry me, then someone else proposed to her and she desired to marry him, so i became jealous and I killed her. Is there any taubah (repentance) for me?

He (Ibn Abaas) said to him:”Is your mother alive? the man said ‘No’ so he said “Make taubah to Allah Azza wa Jall and draw near to him as much as you are able (So the narrator said) so i went and asked Ibn ‘Abaas “Why did you ask him if his mother was alive?” so he responded “Because indeed I do not know of an action that draws one closer to Allah than being dutiful to one’s Mother”

|Collected by Imaamul Bukhaari in his ‘Adabul Mufrad’ and is declared saheeh by shaikh Al Albaani in Saheeh Adabil Al Mufrad hadeeth 4 and Silsilah Saheehah (2799)

Upon the authority of S’ad ibn Abi Waqaas – Radhiyallahu ‘Anhu who said:

“Four verses in the book of Allah were revealed concerning me:

1-My mother had taken an oath that she would not eat or drink until i left Muhammad so Allah revealed: ” And if they strive against you to associate partners with Allah with that which you have no authority then do not obey them, but behave with them with good in the life of this world” (S Luqmaan:Vs 15)

(A longer version of the incident mentions that she said to him”Either you leave this religion of yours or i will not eat or drink a thing until i die! then it will be said ‘Oh you who have killed your mother! and you will be dispraised because of what you did to me! so he responded “do not do this mother, because i will not leave this religion for anything. So she left food and drink for a day and night and she rose in the morning exhausted from not eating. Then she did so for another day and was even worse the following morning. So when i saw this I said: “Oh Mother By Allah! if you had a hundred souls and they left you one by one i would not leave this religion! so eat if you wish or abandon food if you will!” so she ate.)

The Second: I had taken a sword that i liked (from the spoils of war) and i said “Oh Messenger of Allah, may i have this as a gift? so Allah revealed: “They ask you about the spoils of war say: the spoils of War are for Allah and his Messenger..” S Anfaal Vs 1)

The Third: I had become ill and so the messenger came to (visit) me so i said to him “Oh messenger of Allah! i wish to give half of my wealth away (in charity) as a bequest (before death) so he said: “No!” so i said: Then (i wish to give) a third and he remained silent thus a third was deemed permissible

The Fourth:” I drank intoxicants with a people from the Ansaar, then a man from among them pushed my nose into the lips of a Camel, so i went to the messenger of Allah and Allah revealed the prohibition of Intoxicants

(Collected by Imaamul Bukhaari in his ‘Adabul Mufrad’ (hadeeth 24) and declared ‘Saheeh’ By Shaikh Al Albaani in ‘Saheeh Adabil Al Mufrad hadeeth’ 18 and Mishkaat 3072)

Upon the authority of Asmaa bint abi bakr who said: “My mother (who was a non-muslim) came to me seeking (for me to tie the bonds of kinship with her) so I asked the messenger (Sallallahu alaihi wa salam): “Should I tie the bonds of kinship with her? He said: “Yes!” so Allah revealed:

“Allah does not forbid you to deal justly and kindly with those who fought not against you on account of religion and did not drive you out of your homes. Verily Allah loves those who deal with equity”

Suratul Mumtahinah Vs 8

(Collected by Imaamul Bukhaari in Adabul Mufrad Hadeeth 25) and declared ‘Saheeh’ by Shaikh Al Albaani in ‘Saheeh Adabil Mufrad’ Hadeeth 18)

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